I’m reading this wonderful, wonderful book.
I don’t want to take up space telling you the premise, other than:
It basically gives practical advice to maintain healthy connection in every important relationship in your life, especially when those relationships are facing conflict or confrontation.
I began reading it a few months ago and sporadically patted myself on the back . . .
Way to go, D! You are so good at being kind, honoring, and respectful to absolutely EVERYONE you interact with! Yes! Jesus loves you!
Now, I’m not even half-way through and the Lord has given me upwards of a dozen opportunities to effectively communicate that I am NOT kind, honoring, and respectful.
To a L O T of people.
And unfortunately, most of time I’m not to the people in my life who are closest and most dear to me.
(please do not misunderstand – I don’t believe the Lord is giving me these opportunities to shame me . . . only to bring my tendencies/bad habits to the surface so I can remedy them/renew my mind/form new habits/etc.)
In journaling and processing these circumstances and my not-so-great responses to them, my consistent response was
Face-to-face with my humanity! I’m not that great! I’m not perfect, no matter how hard I try, and I should not be the role model that people follow to learn how to deal with conflict!
Other times, I totally rocked it and Holy Spirit gets all the credit for that – helping me to cut my reactions short and actually employ the God-given filter in my brain that shuts my mouth before things get hairy.
Working so hard on this because I so want to represent Jesus and his unconditional love, respect, and honor of A L L people . . . the hardest place for me to practice this is in the midst of conflict.
Prayers, please. 🙂